I value connection!

I have been so very busy with business and family stuff in the last six weeks that I have neglected one of my top values....connection.

Knowing that connection is so high on my list of values, I try and schedule time with people I care about and enjoy. Family emergencies and scheduling issues the last six weeks have made that very difficult. 

I was starting to feel disconnected and even a little depressed. Something was missing, and I just couldn't put my finger on it. I teach this stuff and NOW I am a living example of just how important knowing and living a life based on values really is.

No matter how busy I get, no matter what life throws at me, I need to try my hardest to incorporate my top values into my life. I spent five of the last six weeks pouring out of my proverbial cup over and over again. I, we all need to replenish our cup or we are just not able to give our best to those around us.

Lucky for me, in the last three days I was able to spend a long day with a friend, have breakfast with another and then lunch with yet another. My energy has increased, my attitude is better and I am starting to get back to my happy, positive, normal (normal is a relative term) self.

What are the must have values you need in your life?

When you feel like something is missing, do you know why?

When are you at your best?

Knowing the answers to these questions can shed some light on your true values. Knowing your true values can help you to start living a more fulfilling life on purpose!

GO GO GO!......No wait....Slow Down.

After two days of lying around sick, I wake up on Monday morning with more energy and the promise of a beautiful sunny day. My first instinct is to make lists of everything that needs to get done today, which would also include everything I did not get done over the weekend due to illness. 

Then, that small voice of self awareness perks up and says "In the past, you have made yourself sick again by over doing it. Is that really a good choice?" 

The internal battle begins between my value of accomplishment and the reality of what I can really accomplish. I LOVE to get things done in a timely manner and just be done with it. Which for someone diagnosed with ADD is difficult at best and rarely happens. When it does happen, it feels great! I feel empowered. There are times however, when I can take that value too far. Like using the limited energy I have just recouped to try and accomplish too much in a short amount of time. 

Knowing my value of accomplishment and my own history with it, good and bad, is helping me in the moment to make a conscious decision on how I want to spend my day. 

Our values are often seen as strengths...as well they should be. AND being conscious of what and how we use those values can be a HUGE benefit as well. 

Today, I am going to promise NOT to over do it.  Which for me, IS an accomplishment!  

A happy ending for a local first grader and his family.

 Here we go again.  Southern Oregon makes me DARN proud to live and work in this beautiful place.


Last week, a local grandmother posted a very compelling picture of her grandson Hunter on Facebook.  Later that day, the picture of 6 year old Hunter had gone viral on Facebook and beyond.

 Hunter had been late to school (by 1 minute) and during his lunch time, he was segregated from the rest of the kids with a partition on the table in front of him labeled with a big letter D for detention.  Shamed in front of his peers at 6 years old for something that was out of his control.

 The next morning, local radio talk show host Bill Meyer from AM 1440 saw the Facebook post and wanted to do something to help this first grader and his family.  

     One of the root causes for Hunter being late was the family's undependable car that mom had a hard time starting on cold Southern Oregon mornings.  Bill called me (because my husband and I own a couple of automotive shops) and asked if we would be willing to help.  Of course I said yes.  First, it is just the right thing to do, second, we have had our own experience with a child being unduly shamed in front of her peers.  That picture of Hunter brought me right back to that moment. My heart hurt for Hunter and his parents.  You bet we would help!  

     What started out as us agreeing to donate $500.00 in service to get their vehicle in shape, turned into so much more.  I should have known that Southern Oregon would not stand by and let us take on this task alone.  The vehicle the family really needed repaired was a Dodge Durango that had been sitting for a while.  We enlisted a local tow company, Star Towing and Collision, who picked up the Durango from the family and brought it to our shop, free of charge.  Once we (and when I say we, I mean Dave), did an inspection on the Durango, it was determined that the vehicle had much more damage then it was probably worth (a low estimate was about $3,000).  

     As we were racking our brains, trying to figure out what to do, I received a phone call from a local repo and collections company.  David Stepp and Ron Sherrard from Rapid Repo and Collections, wanted to do whatever they could to help.  I let David know about the shape of the family's car and he went into action.  Later that day, David called back to let me know that he and the owner of Rapid Repo would like to donate a van they now had title of.  What a HUGE blessing this was!  It could not have come at a better time!

    On Saturday, Ron and David delivered a 2001 Chrysler Town and Country mini van to our shop in Grants Pass. After we (Dave), inspected the car, we found it had a significant misfire; a bad window motor; needed a tune up and fluid changes.   Thankfully, about $1,300 in maintenance and repairs later, the car is running well and seems to be in great shape to help Hunter and his mom have a safe and reliable ride to school and beyond.  

     We also have to thank Advanced Glass of Grants Pass, who donated a new windshield valued at $225.00; Advantage Tire of Medford who are donating two new tires; a local resident who saw me on T.V. and sent in a check for $40.00 wanting to help with the repairs; and one of our own staff, Janet Roseen who put her $20.00 into the cause as well.  With those donations and our contributions, we were able to give the family a $100.00 gas card and some gift cards to local eateries.  We are also giving them a year of free oil changes

     When I handed Hunter's dad Mark the key to their "new to them" mini van, the look on his face was priceless.  The feeling I got when handing it over, was amazing.  Our shop, Kelly's Automotive Service has received  a lot of wonderful P.R for this event. However, the true heros are Bill Meyer who got this going and the guys from Rapid Repo and Collections, for stepping up and donating the van.  

     If you are reading this and are moved at all by what this wonderful community did to solve a problem, please take a couple of minutes and send a little thank you to Bill Meyer and the guys at Rapid Repo  and Collections.
  Here is a link to Bill's Facebook Page
 https://www.facebook.com/BillMeyerShow?fref=ts 

  A link to Rapid Repos website http://www.rapidrepo.com/

     What now for Hunter and the school?  Well, mom Nicole and dad Mark sat down with the principle and the policy of segregated (shaming) detention is being changed.  That is all these parents wanted in the first place.  They never set out to get publicity or a hand out, they just wanted to create positive change.  

     Thank you Nicole and Mark for being brave and standing up not just for your son, but for all children.  Thank you Southern Oregon for reminding me once again how blessed we are to live here.  

    Thank you Rapid Repo for letting me hand the keys over to Mark and Nicole.  Now, I think I want to be a game show host when I grow up.  I could give stuff away every day!

365 Days Of Positive

Last year on January 2 or 3^rd I had an epiphany.  I was tired of seeing all the negative things being posted on facebook, heard on the news, printed in the paper and talked about at work and in social situations.  I have always thought that a paper or news channel with only “Good News” would be a fun idea, but quite an undertaking.  So, I decided to do what I could in my own little way and….#365daysofpositive was born. 

I started looking for something positive every day.  It could be anything, a joke, a flower, picture, something about my kids or even that the day was finally over and I was getting into my comfy bed.  I decided I would do this for one year.  I wanted to see what kind of a difference it made in my life…if any. 

I am happy to say that I see and feel joy more often than I did in the past few years….maybe even ever.  By making my #365day commitment public, I forced myself to look for something everyday that was positive.  Even on some of my darkest days I found something to be thankful for.  Now, I was in no way perfect on my #positive finds.  Some days I forgot and others I just got lazy.  I tried to make up for most of the missed days by adding in an extra positive for a few days, but I am sure I am still in a bit of a deficit.

The important thing is that I am happier because of my commitment to find the #positive in every day life.  #365daysofpositive seems to have reached beyond me.  I have been blessed to have people stop me around town to tell me how much they have loved my #positive posts.  I have even had a few people in other countries tell me they appreciate #365daysofpositive.  I am so grateful that people took the time to let me know it affected them in a positive way.

I want to point out however that I am not always happy.  In fact, what I have found is that in order to feel that joy, I must also allow myself to feel sorrow and pain.  Sometimes pain so deep, it felt like I would never come back.  Rather then masking the pain, or burying it beneath work and general busyness, (a skill I have mastered) I took time to grieve, hurt or even get angry.  I also took time out to pray more, thank God for what I do have and ask to be shown the lessons in my trials. 

As 2014 comes to an end, so does my commitment to posting #365daysofpositive, but I will not stop looking the #positive everyday.  It has made such a profound difference in my life that I would be crazy to stop now.  

For 2015 I pan on looking for #blessings in disguise and creating a life based on the #values that God has placed in my heart.

May you find 2015 to be a year filled with #positive #blessings and much more.  

Turning dreams into babies.

When I was in my 20s, I had a friend who had been trying to conceive a child with his wife for years. I remember thinking, “What a wonderful gift it would be to surrogate for them”. Just when I came close to broaching the subject, they found out that finally, they were pregnant. While I did not have the chance to give that gift, Erica Sanders of Medford has.

Erica too felt the calling of helping childless couples dreams of parenthood to come true. Erica took it one step further and contacted a surrogacy center. A few years, lots of paperwork and several doctor visits later, she was pregnant....with TWINS!

If you saw this petite powerhouse, you might begin to understand what a task birthing twins must have been. I asked Erica what her favorite part of being a surrogate was, and she said “Giving the parents their babies.” What a gift!

Erica is very passionate about surrogacy, so much so that she has opened Southern Oregon Surrogacy Center in Medford. While going through the process as a surrogate and having close contact with the parents, Erica learned a lot about the surrogacy process. She knows what it takes to be a surrogate and how important it is to keep the relationship with the parents to be. There is something to be said for being intimately involved and learning what NOT to do in the future as well.

The Southern Oregon Surrogacy Center is the first of its kind in Southern Oregon. According to Sanders and Parents.com, Oregon has some of the top fertility clinics in the world. I was surprised to find out that many of the surrogacy centers are owned by attorneys. Erica hopes to make the Southern Oregon Surrogacy Center one that is family focused. She is hoping to help couples turn dreams into babies.

If you are interested in becoming a surrogate or would like to find out about becoming parents through this process, you can contact Erica at (541) 414-8181. I am so proud to know this young lady. It takes real commitment and fortitude to not only give this wonderful gift of life, but to then follow your dreams of helping others as well.

http://www.southernoregonsurrogacy.com/

Why I was willing to waste 8 hours with my new cell phone company

     What is your biggest pet peeve when it comes to customer service?  Mine is being ignored or disrespected (I guess that is two).   I recently left my local cell phone company that we had been with for over 10 years.  This was not an easy decision.  I did not know if our  business cell phone numbers would  be lost in the process  but I was willing to risk it.  I had to pick out a new phone (pay for a new phone), and the worst part, I had to convince my husband that we should change and then get him down to the cell store to pick out a new phone.  If you knew my husband  you would understand what a difficult task this was.

     Why would I be willing to leave a 10 year relationship with a company?  They ignored me. They did not want to take responsibility for dropped calls , (I  called the main company), and when I went into the local stores  I was ignored.

     After much research I decided I would switch to Verizon. I called the local corporate store of Verizon to make an appointment and was told " I will look for you then” and “ I will make sure I am available."  Even though he was not available we got there (as he was finishing up with another client), he checked in with us several times.  Other employees checked with us to make sure we were being helped as well.  We may have waited 15 minutes, but we were being acknowledged over and over again so it did not seem to bother us. 

     To make a long story short, we spent several hours in the Verizon store.  We picked out cell phones, talked about service, purchased phones, ported numbers...etc.  I now know the man who was helping us on a first name basis, his family situation and past job.  He knows much of the same about me.  This was not just a transaction, it was time spent developing a relationship to best help the customer.

    Two days after getting my phone I found out I was not receiving texts from a couple of people who were still customers of my old cell phone service provider.  I spent about an hour and a half on the phone with tech support, went into the store, did internet research and still could not fix the problem. Off to the store again,  I went to ask for help.  I think half the staff that day, along with tech support, tried to fix the issue to no avail.  So, they gave me a new phone and new sim card.  I spent 3.5 hours in the store just on this issue.  I should be really upset, but I'm not.  The employee's apologized for the wait, engaged me in conversation and kept trying new things to fix the issue.  A manager came over and apologized again saying "I am really sorry, this is not the experience we want you to have your first two weeks with Verizon."  The crazy thing is, even though I spent so much time dealing with "technical difficulties" I knew that they were trying to help me and I felt taken care of.  

     EVERYONE makes mistakes.  Everyone has a bad day now and then. Technical or other difficulties are going to happen.  It is how we respond to those mistakes and difficulties that count.  Because the local Verizon store took the time to acknowledge that this was indeed a problem, their fault or not, they were not willing to stop until I was happy.  Eight hours, in total, on this issue (I don't have 8 hours to give up) and I am still a happy Verizon customer. 

The moral of my story? Acknowledge your customers!  Let them know you care and step up when there is an issue.  You will be surprised at the loyal advocates you develop for your business.  Heck, they may even write a blog about you!  :)

Waiting on Perfection

 I can't do that....I am not skinny enough yet. I can't teach that class, I don't 

know absolutely everything. I can't post that...my grammar is not always 

perfect. These are the things that run through my head.....constantly. 

 The things I let my inner critic hold me back from is sometimes mind 

boggling. The amount of weight I give to what other people think and what 

they say about what I do, is even more mind boggling. 

 I have avoided (and probably will continue to avoid) being in videos, 

pictures and television commercials because I don't like the way I look. I 

have turned down opportunities to teach classes and take on clients until I 

am so over loaded with information that I could almost start a new business 

just on that subject. I am an over learner, which at times can come in handy. 

However, in the meantime I am depriving others of information that could 

help them while I am waiting on perfection. 

 I have avoided posting things on facebook and writing blogs because my 

grammar, no matter how hard I try, never seems to be perfect enough for 

what I call the grammar police. 

 So, here are my choices. Curl up in the fetal position and sink into 

obscurity (my first and most comfortable inclination) or continue to try and 

push myself to do the things that make me uncomfortable. I can continue 

to let shame run who I am or I can continue to be my imperfect, flawed but 

worthy of love and respect self. 

 This was a big vulnerable blog for me. I hope, that with my stepping out 

it encourages someone else who needs to hear this message. What you have 

to contribute could be the one thing that could change someones business, 

relationship or life. 

Waiting on perfection is a losing battle.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out 

how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds 

could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man 

who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and 

sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes 

short again and again, because there is no effort without 

error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the 

deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; 

who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows 

in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the 

worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that 

his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who 

neither know victory nor defeat"

Theodore Roosevelt